10 Songs to Help You Survive Valentine’s Day Without Bae
Winter is the season of cuffing and it’s no secret why. Cold weather is the perfect excuse to spark a new flame or rekindle an old one and lock up the franchise player on your roster of late-night creeping partners. And sometimes those late-night meet-ups can evolve into something more and before you know it, you and said person are considered and item and no longer on the market.
But what if your cuffing season has come to an abrupt end, or never even begun at all? Valentine’s Day day is here and while many people will be exchanging gifts, going on lavish dates, and the sort, those of you who aren’t committed to anyone at the moment will have to sit on the sidelines and stomach the excessive amounts of PDA. There will be no flowers and chocolate for bae but instead, there will be constant reminders if you’re on social media that everyone else seems to have a SO. Don’t worry about a thing.
You likely decided that love may be overrated at the moment and scoff at the thought of the incessant affection. Single life is the good life. Well, a few people here at XXL can relate and have dug up a few songs that will help you survive Valentine’s Day without a bae. Fabolous, Jay Z and Lil Wayne, to name a few, have the soundtrack for your day. There’s a even a few for the ladies. So hold your head high and press play on these ten cuts.
“You know I, thug em, fuck em, love em, leave em
Cause I don’t fucking need em / Take em out the hood, keep em looking good / But I don’t fucking feed em,” Jay Z raps on his 1999 smash, “Big Pimpin'” featuring UGK. And while those words may seem a bit brash, many people who are sick of love and commitment can relate. Valentine’s Day is all about catering to your significant other, but for some, that is simply not an option. For those that would rather keep their pimp hand strong rather than cave in to the romantic festivities that take place on V-Day, “Big Pimpin'” should grace your playlist more than a few times.
Sometimes a breakup can leave a sour taste in your mouth and Valentine’s Day can remind you of the bullet that you dodged. Big Sean — having gone through a few breakups himself — knows that feeling well and lashes out on his Dark Sky Paradise cut, “I Don’t Fuck With You” featuring E-40. “I heard you got a new man, I see you takin’ a pic / Then you post it up, thinkin’ that it’s makin’ me sick / I see you calling, I be makin’ it quick / I’mma answer that shit like, I don’t fuck with you,” Sean Don makes it clear he has no feelings to go and is unconcerned with any PDA, from his ex or anyone else.
Being without a bae to shower you with affection may leave you feeling a little left out on Valentine’s Day, but throw on the Nicki Minaj and Beyonce collab, “Feeling Myself,” and remind yourself that you’re still all the woman that a man will ever need and more. Nicki Minaj goes in on her opening verse, spitting, “Feelin’ myself, back off, cause I’m feelin’ myself, jack off / He be thinking about me when he whacks off, wax on? Wax off / National anthem, hats off, then I curve that nigga, like a bad toss / Lemme get a number two, with some Mac sauce, On The Run Tour, with my mask off,” while Beyonce handles the hook duties. So don’t let the lack of a bae get you down, just throw this song on and bask in all your glory as an independent, bad chick.
R. Kelly and The Game hit the club and tear it down on “Playaz Only,” a cut off of R. Kelly’s TP.3 Reloaded that is perfect for the guy unconcerned with cupid and bow and arrows. This is the track for anyone who just wants to party with women and live life as an uncuffed man. The Pied Piper describes a paradise where there’s nothing but ballers, gorgeous women and not a simp to be found. “Playas only / We where them chicks be jerkin’ they bodies / Up in the club where they get real naughty / Take ’em from here to the private party,” he sings before the Game catches wreck. “Playa’s Only” is the perfect tune to throw on for the guy that may not have a bae or main chick, but doesn’t plan on being lonely on Valentine’s Day either, if you catch our drift.
“Ex Girl to the Next Girl”
Gang Starr‘s bread and butter may have been songs centered around the street life, but even Guru and DJ Premier have touched on having adversity in your love life and overcoming it. The dynamic duo addressed having to dust their shoulders off and move onto greener pastures on their Daily Operation track, “Ex Girl to the Next Girl,” a selection that plays well for the guy that may be getting over a breakup without a lover, but remains optimistic. Lyrics like, “You know I used to be a player, fly girl layer and a heartbreaker / Lovemaker, backbreaker but then I made a / Mistake yes I fell in love with this ill chick / Sweatin’ me for money, my name and the dilsnick,” laments Guru’s lesser moments with the ladies. “You and I are the past, c’est la vie, much respect girl / But now you’re my ex-girl cuz I’m on with the next girl,” prove that Guru is never pressed over the skins. Definitely required listening to keep the Valentine’s Day blues away.
It’s cliche to think that being boo’d up is the end-all, be-all for women on Valentine’s Day, but some ladies have no qualms about cutting ties with their significant other after they mess up, no matter what the holiday is. Trina makes this clear on her 2008 banger “Single Again,” on which she announces that she’s back on the market and on to bigger and better things. “You know how they do, how they act / See you with another man and they want you back (whoo whoo) / My ass still fat (whoo whoo) they still Checking for me / And never will you find another bitch like me,” she raps with her head held high and without a concern. The Diamond Princess delivers an anthem for all the women that are single again and back on the prowl to remind them who’s the baddest on Valentine’s Day.
Valentine’s Day is for lovers, but some people have skipped “Cuffin Season” altogether and prefer to scoff at the thought of partaking in any romantic festivities. Fabolous rails against those looking for a quick gift or affection with his thot-bashing anthem, “Cuffin Season,” which is a perfect selection for those hitting decline on calls and ignoring texts from those looking to get over. “Every rapper in a cypher, every player in a huddle (whoa) / You really wanna fuck, but you say you want to cuddle (whoa) / You posting like you balling, but you really in a struggle (yeah) / Your captions be deep, but you shallow as a puddle / Turn down for what?” he delivers. Fab makes it no secret what his feelings are while crushing a few dreams of reformed jump-offs.
Lil Wayne hooks up a banger that celebrates being free of any handcuffs and reveling in the prospective cuties awaiting on this classic mixtape loosie. Co-produced by Noah “40” Shebib and Omen and lifted from his No Ceilings mixtape, “Single” finds Tunechi completely content with being solo and reiterating that point throughout the song. “Yeah, I’m single / Nigga had to cancel that bitch like Nino / I ain’t tripping on nothing, I’m sipping on something / And my homeboy say he got a bad bitch for me,” he serves. Weezy has no concerns of Valentine’s Day and crafts a track that is a prime selection for those that would rather toast to being ready to mingle than being in love.
Being alone on Valentine’s Day can suck, but if you got a group of friends in the same boat you all can help each other not get too far in the dumps. Lil’ Kim displayed a similar kind of unity on “Not Tonight (Ladies Night Remix),” rounding up the likes of Lisa “Left Eye” Lopes, Da Brat, Angie Martinez and Missy Elliott, they hold each other down on the mic. “Oh this is ladies’ night, and our rhymes is tight / Oh this is ladies’ night, oh what a night (oh what a night)” on the hook, Missy Elliott and company give women that may not be getting wooed a jam to step out into the night to and celebrate life regardless of a lack of an SO.
“Find a Way”
Some rap fans may not have a bae, but are attempting to close the deal with someone they’ve had their eye on and the cat-and-mouse game has been driving them crazy. Well, when the insanity reaches a fever pitch, be sure to throw on this classic by A Tribe Called Quest and try to keep it together. “Find A Way” features the Phife dissecting the games people play on his opening verse, spitting “Not dealing with nobody, now that’s what you told me (what?) / I said: “hey yo, it’s cool, we can just be friendly” (come on) / Cause yo, picture me messing it up / Her mind now corrupt with the ill C-Cups” and straddling the thin line between friendship and intimacy. While you may have missed out on having a Valentine this year, “Find A Way” is a breezy banger that should give you hope for the future and keep you optimistic while all the other love-birds are out and about.